How Can I Help My Student? - Planning Ahead
- Anticipate the basic life skills needed, and teach your student how to do laundry, minor sewing repairs, cook a half-dozen quick and nutritious meals, do basic money record keeping, and create a monthly budget.
- Talk about financial arrangements, expectations, and limitations to reduce future misunderstandings. Such discussions sometimes raise awareness of the subtle pressure you may exert on your student to uphold his/her "end of the bargain", and give you the opportunity to think about whether that is helpful or not.
- Discuss how transitions are both exciting and stressful. Some discomfort is normal and cannot be avoided. It usually helps to get involved in campus activities and find even one person to have meals with. Many people adjust to significant changes in their life within 3 - 6 months, although some take longer.
- Assess how much support is necessary-and in what areas-and provide what is needed. This isn't the same as leaving your student to "sink or swim", but rather this approach of "only what is needed" enables your student to gain confidence in his/her abilities and learn from mistakes. He/she will know that you are there in the background.
- If your student experiences challenges due to a health condition or disability, encourage him/her to register with Health Services or Queen's Student Accessibility Services (QSAS) to arrange for a smooth transfer of care.