How Can I Help? - Communication
- Asking general questions (How is it going with your courses?) rather than probing questions (Did you hand in your lab report on time?) lets your student know you are interested, and that you trust he/she will manage themselves responsibly. General, open questions enable your student to share information as he/she wishes, while "yes/no" questions often limit conversation.
- If your student asks for advice, first ask for his/her opinion on how he/she would solve the problem. You will learn what's on his/her mind, how he/she thinks, and what is important to him/her, and your student will exercise independent problem-solving skills and confidence. He/she will have the opportunity to learn from possible mistakes and assume responsibility for his/her decisions. This leads to increased competence.
- Students who live at home may struggle to feel part of the Queen's community. Family rules may need to be negotiated to reflect the student's need to develop autonomy and to meet academic and personal schedules. There may be evening classes, long group meetings, and sports teams to accommodate. Parents may find it helpful to speak with family friends or others who have experienced similar transitions.